Archive for July, 2007

Foundation Stone #41 - Use Guilty Feeling to be Committed

If there is someone whom you cannot hide from, it is none other than yourself. Amazingly you don’t realize that whenever you are true to others, you are essentially true to yourself. But tell a lie, do a mistake knowingly that you think others will not know and if your conscience fights against you because you did wrong, you realize you can hide a mistake from someone but really cannot hide it from yourself.

“Feeling guilty” can be made to work for the right purposes. In fact this has really helped me a lot to correct myself and stick on to things I have committed to. Because I know if I don’t keep it up, it will slowly eat my mind, unless there is something genuine stopping me to complete the work. Instead of suffering that bite, I would rather struggle, work hard and somehow complete what I committed to finish.

Though, be aware of a couple of points that can work against you in this process and put you in a trap. The first one is the anti-theory. The anti-theory is when you constantly allow your mind to bite, you become numb and insensitive. This is very dangerous because when you become numb and insensitive, it doesn’t matter to you when you don’t do anything what you promised or committed to. That’s when you dig your own grave. The second one is, in a progressive effort to complete what you have committed to; you might sideline or give less importance to the dependencies of the task you are taking upon. There is folk tale that explains this. There was a crow which got an opportunity to taste from a trash, a sweet made of rice and brown sugar. It liked it so much that it wanted more. So the crow asked it’s wife to prepare some more for him. His wife told him, that it needs some ingredients to make it. The crow got all the ingredients his wife had asked for. Then the crow’s wife started preparing it putting all the ingredients in a pot under fire. The crow was so impatient that it asked its wife repeatedly whether it was ready. Finally when the crow’s wife said it was ready, the crow was so impatient, that it put his beak into the boiling sweet. Because the sweet was so hot, the crow burnt its tongue and could not really sense the taste. It got so furious that it took the pot and dropped it. The pot broke and the sweet got scattered around the ground going waste. The crow’s wife advised her husband to not to be so hasty. The crow realized it by tasting few drops of the sweet that remained in a piece of the pot that had become cold, but all the efforts that it took to get the ingredients and the effort that his wife had put had already gone waste.

Even though the moral of the above story is “haste is waste”, a point to take from this is that we often have tasks that depend on so many things that takes its own time to be done right. If we miss this we might say that we completed it, but the final outcome may not be what is expected and it might be a double work for someone who was expecting it from us to be right the first time. If one keeps these two points in mind and has that guilty feeling to make sure that he/she completes what is committed to on time then the person is already taken a step to be self disciplined and gains trust among people associated with him/her.